Sad But True…

What’s the harshest, most difficult to hear — but accurate — criticism you’ve ever received. Does it still apply?

“YOU STUPID BOY!”

Is that criticism or just good, old fashioned abuse?

I still hear those words ringing in my ears, mainly because they are still being said to me by the same person on a regular basis. These days, however it’s in a jovial way, a caps lock off type of way. They are said to me from a previous manager of mine, who is now a good friend. Damn, am I giving away the ending already? That’s why I’d never be allowed to be a Brother Grimm as I’d have the “they all lived happily ever after” at the start of the fairy tale so there would be no point! Again, I digress…

The first time I heard the words “YOU STUPID BOY!” said to me in full caps lock, 100 pt bold font I really deserved it. To cut a long story, short (2nd reason I couldn’t be a Grimm Brother) I worked in a bank and done something that could have lost a lot of money and I should have known better. I got taken into the hallway and screeeeeamed at. I had quite long hair at the time and that hallway become a wind tunnel – the force of the screaming coming at me could have given Beyonce’s wind machine a run for its money.

Usually when I get shouted at, or someone tells me bad news –  I never know how to react…I start thinking too much about how I should be reacting…and then…you think…please don’t laugh, please don’t laugh.

I tried so hard and my coping mechanism is usually to sing the lyrics of Sunshine, Lollipops & Rainbows in my head so after a few minutes the shouting was over and I was one well and truly stupid boy!

The plus side to this “telling off style” was once it was done it was done. Over with and back to normal which I really like – tell it like it is and then just get on with it. I had another boss once who, when he wanted to tell me something he pussyfooted around the topic until I had worked out what the hell he was trying to get at. I’m sorry, but I have no time for that – you expect me to do my job and also work out cryptic clues? It might work for Scooby Doo and Shaggy but if it’s a spade – call it a spade!

Does it still apply?

Yes, but it has become..

you stupid boy

..and it was all good fun. We had some really good times working together.

Now we don’t work together, I am still “the stupid boy” and we are very good friends.

It’s good to be stupid, life would be boring for me if I had to be “the serious boy”

So – what’s the harshest, most difficult to hear — but accurate — criticism you’ve ever received? Let me know in the comments below or tweet me @SteveSays2014

 

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